The Solution
Champion bachelors Craig and Greg present a myriad of topics centering on relationships and addictions, shared in the positive light of experience, strength and hope. Both have struggled with the strongholds of addiction and with relationships that went awry, and both have emerged on the other side -- stronger, wiser and better prepared to become what they once set out to be.
The Solution
The Solution Episode 54
Embark on an exploration of the heart's complexities and mind's musings, where joy, love, and the snares of addiction intertwine in the quest for happiness. Craig Dahlen, Greg Carter, and Josh Goding join us to unravel the tapestry of emotions, digging into the hormonal dance of dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin and their sway over our moods and connections. As we delve into the ebb and flow of romantic relationships, we ponder the fine line between desire and dependence, and the significance of preserving individuality for a fulfilling existence. This candid conversation is an invitation to reflect on your own happiness blueprint, as we dissect the shadows cast by addiction and the illuminating power of understanding and maintaining personal space within our relationships.
With the audacity of positive thinking as our beacon, this episode transcends the superficial 'fake it till you make it' paradigm, challenging listeners to harness their inner narratives to foster resilience and overcome life's adversities. We investigate the role of positive affirmations in the realm of addiction recovery and the transformative potential of reprogramming our subconscious to dispel negativity. Our dialogue ventures into the realm of failure—redefining it not as a label, but as a mere occurrence on the journey to contentment—as we champion the art of detachment from outcomes for a more joyous life. Join us for a heart-to-heart, where vulnerability and wisdom coalesce to guide you through the intricacies of positivity, love, and the pursuit of a happiness that is uniquely your own.
Champion Bachelors Craig and Greg present a myriad of topics centering on relationships and addictions in the positive lights of experience, strength and hope. Both have struggled with the strongholds of addiction and with relationships that went awry, and both have emerged on the other side stronger, wiser and better prepared to become what they once set out to be. You're listening to the Solution.
Speaker 2:Hey, welcome to the Solution. I'm your host, craig Dallin, sitting in here with my other hosts, greg Carter and Josh Goeding, and we're going to be talking about happiness tonight, guys, ooh, happy. And we're going to be talking about happiness tonight, guys, Woo, happy. And it's a desperately needed to be talked about subject. Oh yeah, you know, we're going to be talking about it in terms of in the relationships and in addictions. Right, happiness is a key word because I don't know if you guys have noticed, but in the last years or so, I don't see as many smiles and pure laughter. You know, you don't see it as much. Maybe it's coming back, I don't know. That's awful, but it's sad, do?
Speaker 1:you mean in the circles that you run in.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I guess you don't run in circles. You see a lot more. Oh, and maybe it started off with the politics. I don't know, maybe it was the COVID, maybe it was just different things over the years, but there's a lot of. We like to see happy people, absolutely I feel you on that.
Speaker 1:I have to agree, unfortunately.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:It's more of a feeling. I don't know if it's a lack of smiles, but since you put it that way, I'll have to watch, look out for that.
Speaker 2:Yeah. I'll have to make sure I'm not frowning myself. It is something to look out for. You know, women they feel happiness through, they use more emotion, they think through more emotion and because they're equipped to do it too, they're part of their brain is much more ready to just deal with emotion. And whereas men, we are more logic and reason, of course we all deal with emotion. And whereas men, we are more logic and reason, of course we all deal with emotion too, but you're not saying women are happier, though, are you?
Speaker 2:no, I'm not saying women are happier, but boy, are they miserable. No, I mean when they're, when they're down, they're really down yeah, sure, sure.
Speaker 1:I mean the women. I know they can, they can really get down, but boy, they, they're happy and fun to be around. When I drop my headphones yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2:But like we're going to be talking about happiness, but to really have the proper perspective, to know if we're happy, we have to know what the exact opposite of happiness is I'd say sadness, just being very sad sadness, how about? How about madness, the tears of a mad mad yeah, mad sadness mad sad or Madness Mad sad?
Speaker 3:Yes, definitely.
Speaker 2:What about just no, you're right, you're right.
Speaker 1:Or some kind of numb, dull sort of depression thing where you no feelings sort of.
Speaker 2:I don't know, yeah, yeah, and that could be from different things. It could be a chemical thing too inside the person. It could be a chemical thing too inside the person. But when we're really at our happiest, we have a good mix of hormones that are getting dropped down in us the dopamine, yes, serotonin. If you're having sex? The oxytocin. I forgot what that one is. What is that one I forgot? Is that the bonding?
Speaker 1:Yeah, oxytocin for what is that one I forgot Is that the bonding yeah, oxytocin for sex.
Speaker 2:It's a bonding, it bonds you, I see, and it's a good one. Oh, very good, yeah, and so that's big and the thing is too we're going to be talking about through addictions and through relationships, and those two, if you think about it, those two have the exact opposite so much of the time. Because think about a relationship. How many times are you like, maybe really really, really mad at that person or you're really really happy? Okay, that exhibits itself more than any place right, there is in relationships, yeah, the polar opposite of happiness or in addictions.
Speaker 1:Having a significant other. There's no quicker way to get off balance, I think.
Speaker 2:Yep, it's a roller coaster, yeah, I mean you can feel at the top of the top or you can be at the low of the low, depending on how the relationship goes, depending on how the communication is going. Usually that's where you can usually find the victim. You can usually find the dead soldier hanging out in communication. Yes, I see, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1:Or a compromise of a person's identity altogether.
Speaker 2:Well, what usually is the biggest attack on your happiness in a relationship, do you think?
Speaker 1:Well, right now I'm thinking of narcissistic entanglements, and that's not a good answer because it's not balanced. But you know I'm thinking of or just toxic, toxic, yeah, toxic things where they're actually trying the person might be trying to make you unhappy, and so that's a crazy-making time.
Speaker 2:Yep and if they're trying to do that. Hopefully you can recognize it and get the heck out of that relationship. Yes, close the door on that If you notice somebody's trying to throw some toxicity your way and they happen to be your boyfriend or girlfriend. I would make that the last day that they're your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Speaker 1:They're trying to take you down a peg, and every time you're interested in something they're like eh, that's not too cool really. You know like hey, I learned how to play harmonica. On this song You're like harmonica, what is that? That old thing that people used to do? Like old people, wow. Oh, okay, that's fine you know, like harmonica, that's called lack of support. So I deafened her basically I blew it in her ear. Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2:Well, you know, and yeah, it's Campaigning against one's happiness it's all about who you're with. Yeah, if you're, you know you're in a relationship and this goes for the people here in relationships and this goes for the people here in relationships If you're dating somebody, that's if they're compatible and you guys work together good, please recognize what you got going, because it is so much different. You're in a situation that's pretty darn good, because it's pretty easy to get in situations that aren't good, right. But if a relationship is good and you're, you're growing as a person and they're helping you to grow and you can help them to grow, yeah, hang out stay in it.
Speaker 1:When you're in a toxic thing, it's so easy to forget. It's so easy to forget what it should be like. You try to lift that person up because you like them.
Speaker 2:They're your friend, and why is that that we forget? Why do you think? Why? Why is that that we forget? Why?
Speaker 1:is that that we forget? Well, the trauma bonding, I think it's like, or the normalizing of the abuse, because the addiction to the cycle of Well how about lack of perspective? Yeah, that's what it is, Craig. I become a pathetic wretch under their thumb and I forget that I don't have to be that.
Speaker 2:Hey, I'm with you, man. It's so easy to forget, isn't it? I mean, that brings up such a good point Because you can be in a relationship that isn't going good. It sucks every day, but you're fighting for it, but you don't realize what it's doing to you.
Speaker 1:Table scraps, so they'll toss out a few little morsels of praise and um positivity and affection, but it's so little and far between, and you're so busy trying to pick those up and scarf them down that you don't notice the kick that's coming for your ribs.
Speaker 2:You don't notice it either, because that's when you're a kid. You may have been in that type of relationship, you may have been handled that way. Oh, that's so true, and so you can see that as being normal. When actually it's a toxic sucker, you know, it's like a noose around your neck, it's choking you out, tap out.
Speaker 3:It's got to tap out.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you got to tap out.
Speaker 1:It's a big MMA competition. Well, I know that she was doing this person that I recently broke up with she was because I heard her phone conversation with her mom and she learned all these, all the things she was using on me, these horrible tactics of undermining it and like a compliment sandwich where you have criticism, like a bad dig sandwich between two sort of neutral-ish like mediocre compliments, and then right in the middle, but she was basically doing everything her mom was teaching her and taught her. She was a perfect abuser.
Speaker 2:Well, yeah, her mom, you pick up things from your folks. Yeah, you know, you usually become, quite often you'll become what they were, what they're going to show you. They're going to show you how to live. You know they might not realize it, but you're watching every move.
Speaker 3:They make Right, Greg yeah.
Speaker 2:And there's a lot of beautiful things come from that too.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I think a lot of this too. Whenever I've been with certain women like what you were talking about too, josh a lot of these particular type of women. They hold me responsible for their happiness. Looking back on it, and the biggest lie we're told is that be with someone who makes you happy. The truth is that happiness comes from the inside. We're responsible for our own happiness. Nobody else's People can create happy moments in my life, but the true happiness that lies inside, that's on us. That's for us to do for ourselves.
Speaker 2:Well, let's go a step further with that, with addictions. I'll just preface that by saying when I got sober back in 2011, I remember reaching a high where I couldn't believe how happy I was and there was something inside of me that was ticking that for years hadn't ticked and it was just incredible. So, when you can get rid of some things that are holding you down, right, like keeping your there's tethered to the ground, tied to the ground, yeah, you know. Like a balloon, you know, when it's tied to the ground and can't move, yeah, Chains that bind us.
Speaker 2:Chains that bind.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we bind it. What the sad part is is that we put the chains on ourselves Right. We choose that wrong woman in the relationship. We done that, we helped play a part in that. So a lot of times I'd point the finger at the girl. It was me, yeah, it was me. Just as much me of her, in fact, if not more me.
Speaker 2:And the trick is too yeah, it's hard to recognize because we don't have that perspective.
Speaker 1:You want to throw good money after bad because you've already come this far and you forget how bad it is.
Speaker 2:Or we don't realize it because for years I was getting in bad relationships. I'm not saying it was their fault just as much mine, but I was used to that growing up.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and sex clouds the judgment. We talked about that in one of the podcasts. You bring sex into the equation. It clouds your judgment, it clouds how you feel about it, especially if you're an addict and alcoholic, because we forget this a lot of times Addict and alcohol, alcoholism and addiction it's also a disease of perception. Not only is it a spiritual and mental and physical disease, but in the mind it's a disease of perception. We see and experience and feel things the way they really not as a result of being in a state of euphoria.
Speaker 2:Right, plus those, those same same hormones, those same chemicals that are being downloaded into our brain. Yes, they're the very same ones. There's a crossover there, for you know what I mean for the serotonin, the dopamines, the oxytocin those are. You know that's the, the sex one, but I mean those. Those have been, you've been getting filled with those through doing some bad things, and I mean they're addictive things.
Speaker 3:Yes, they are. Yeah, Like that. One philosopher said that, hey, if you do or experience something that makes you feel good or great, you're going to want to experience it as often as you can.
Speaker 2:Especially if you've been leading a life, living a life where you didn't feel that normal, exactly Okay, you know what I mean, josh. It's like if you're a kid and you maybe didn't have you felt you didn't have the greatest home life.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:A lonely kid or something, yeah, and so you weren't used to getting those feel-good chemicals so much. And then when you did get them, you're like wow.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I can say it's easy to become addicted to the companionship, very easy. The sex and the intimacy. Yeah, relationships can really become an addiction, absolutely For me. And then you start acting like an addict. You get grouchy when you don't get. You don't get some and blame her. And there's also what they call a hedonistic reduction. So the same things that pleased you in the relationship earlier on you kind of become a little more what's the word not immune, but you become, you develop a tolerance, so like the sex gets stale almost, and then you're wanting more and more. I mean it doesn't happen so easily and so often. It's not exactly like being addicted to a chemical, but kind of though it can be.
Speaker 2:Well it is. Yeah, I know You're totally right, because those things are getting dropped down during the intercourse. You know you're getting the feel good Intercourse. You become addicted to them pretty quick. A person can if they hadn't had a lot of those feelings in the past.
Speaker 1:Yeah. You know, and the fear of losing that I think right. And the fear of losing that I think right. Sometimes I felt a lot of fear in relationships. Almost immediately you start to fall for someone and then there's this fear of loss, fear of losing them?
Speaker 3:Yep, and that also can affect the communication too. If you're dwelling on the fear of losing them, that can affect your communication too.
Speaker 2:Big time, big time. Because, the one person is thinking wow, this person is needy. Yeah, oh yeah, they're chasing me all over the place.
Speaker 1:They're going nuts like come on, stop, stop your eyes. You're just perking up everything. Their phone rings or they get a message beeps and you just kind of the one person is on high alert for it to come in.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because they have to have that. That dopamine hit. The other person is going wow, wow, johnny's acting weird towards me. He's chasing me a lot. Yeah, oh, trying to. Yeah, he's trying to do weird things to me. You know what I?
Speaker 1:mean You've stayed with us this far, and that shows commitment, proving you possess the trait required to obtain the solution.
Speaker 2:Now let's rejoin the show already in progress. So I mean, it's really it's a very interesting thing, and I wish we're living in an age where, right now, where there is a lot of addiction going around, big, big yes, and you said unhappiness to an epidemic of unhappiness.
Speaker 2:unhappiness, you know, and we want people to be happy and, of course, we all want to be happy, but right now we're living in a situation that gives extreme um perspective. Yes, because right now happiness is at a premium, it feels like there's a lot to be unhappy about. Yes, there is. And who creates that unhappiness?
Speaker 3:We do. In my opinion we do.
Speaker 1:But there's some real drivers out there that love to sell fear that's in the media, news and things that use negativity for sensationalism and then sensationalism sells advertising. And then some people we have to watch If you watch the news still, because I gave up on watching TV news some five years ago or more but it's like a horror show a lot of times. I don't know if COVID was like watching a full horror movie, to the point where I was having nightmares after watching the news about COVID escaping the lab and running into this other strain of COVID and the two of them merged together and became a super COVID and it was like an amoeba flowing down the hallways and I woke up in a cold sweat of like this is bad, this is going to be bad, right, and then the reality was not it and the reality was not it wasn't that, it was not that.
Speaker 2:Not that at all and they came out and admitted it. You know, I think a big thing that people can lack and can get in the way of their happiness is confidence.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:When a person isn't confident and all you have to do is just call it and say what it is. I'm going to be confident.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 2:Why not? I'm going to accept whatever happens, and I'm gonna be cut yeah fake it, fake it till you make it fake it till you make it and you start saying I'm gonna be confident. Before you know it, you're confident and then, before you know it, you've done great things absolutely like in the treatment center.
Speaker 3:I have the clients do this. I tell them sobriety is for people who want it, not need it, right? So I have them look in the mirror and say I want want to stay sober today. I said if you do that several times, you will want to stay sober, you'll believe it and recovery will become easier for you.
Speaker 2:Of course, then as you incorporate the steps into it, meetings and all that, and yeah, it's just like I'll get in the shower sometimes in the morning and I just think, man, today is going to not be a good day. I don't feel that good and I'm in the shower immediately. I'll turn that around and I'll say today is going to be the very best day I've had in a long, long time. Exactly. And every time I say that it is.
Speaker 2:That's right, even if it's cloudy outside or the sun's not shining, I'll be the sunshine in somebody's life. Then You're proclaiming it.
Speaker 1:Exactly so. You're getting into negative self-talk and positive self-talk, self-talk and positive self-talk. So maybe when you're having, when you're not happy, there may be some some subjective sorry, subconscious or um subtle, um, you know, driving oneself, oh, there's away from happiness.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, we accidentally well, let's, let's remember that 95 of our brain is subconscious and the other five is just, is our working brain, that we understand, you know, and we're loaded with files, I think it's 2080, but files and files, and so if we're having a bad day, we got a lot of stuff in our brain that's telling us to have a bad day. We don't even know it right so we.
Speaker 2:So the best thing to do is retrain your subconscious, and when you're feeling down a little bit, you got to say, uh-uh, I'm taking control of this thing yeah, this is gonna be a great day and do something positive, do something positive do something positive, help somebody out, just do something kind, do a positive activity get a hold of your transactional face, your fears. That's right, yeah face your fears and look, look right through them and face them down, because that right there will free you of a lot of crap.
Speaker 3:I'm looking at you fear. Yes, I am yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:Because that right there wants to stay in the way of our happiness. You face your fears, kick the piss out of them.
Speaker 3:I like it too that. Oh sorry, but go ahead. No, go ahead.
Speaker 2:You know that old phrase fear came knocking on my door and I sent my faith to go answer it. Yeah, yeah, oh, I like that, I like that one. Yeah, yeah, I sent my faith to go answer. Hey, faith, go get the door, go get the door.
Speaker 1:Faith, man Greg's not here right now, but can I take a message?
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Burn. My name is faith Right, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:No, I like that one In in terms of being happy and remember that failure is a huge part of success.
Speaker 3:Yes, yeah, so many times. People fail and what happens is they think they're a failure as a person. I learned this a long time ago failure is not a person, it's just simply an event it's part of what yeah, just an event. That's all it is.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah what were you gonna say, josh?
Speaker 1:or I'm just gonna riff on what he said too. There's some quote it. It's a good one. Of course I'm going to misquote it, but something like success is fall down seven times, get up eight times.
Speaker 3:Is that right yeah?
Speaker 2:that was good.
Speaker 1:I don't know.
Speaker 2:That is good, because you're just saying keep getting up when you get knocked down because that's a part of life, that's right.
Speaker 1:The most famous and useful people and all the big scientists and brains.
Speaker 1:Like they all failed so many dozens or hundreds of times, it's we remember them for their lap, for the time they didn't fail and and they and they figured it out yeah, um, whatever it might be, but I was gonna say too um, happiness, um, we can suffer when we become attached to things and to ideas and to outcomes that we are hoping for, and then, when those things are taken from us or when they don't occur, we can suffer quite a bit. So to be truly happy, I think you need your goals and your hopes and your dreams, let's say, but you can't be too attached To anything really. You need to live lightly, like a leaf floating on the water.
Speaker 3:I would call that expectations or premeditated resentment. Sometimes I've had those in the past where I've had such a strong expectation on a person, place or thing. I expected it to work out this way and when it didn't, oh my God, the world came collapsing down on me. I was resentful, and sometimes with everybody around me I'm like, no, that's not a place to be resentful. And sometimes that everybody around me, I'm like no, that's not a place to be. Just yeah, just uh, yeah, try not to for myself, I try not to have too strong expectations. It's like any more of my fears, like when dating somebody aren't there the way they used to be. It's like, oh my God, what if? What if it doesn't work out Well, that's going to affect the communication. So I I kind of live by this If a door of happiness closes, another opens. But often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the door of happiness, the new door of happiness that has opened up for us see what I mean yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:Or if we lose something. We're so focused on what we lose instead of what we really gain. Yep, or about to gain?
Speaker 2:yeah focus and perspective. That's right. Perspective is huge it is, it is that's why it's always good to understand and to feel and just to watch the world around you I mean, there's so many, it's so easy to tell what happiness is, because you can see what unhappiness is.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Having gratitude, you know to bring that idea back. So unhappiness, I think, is living your life always looking for what's missing. I know something's missing. Why am I? I could be happier. I could be happier. What is it that I don't have? But instead of doing that, you count your blessings and think about all the unlikely things that have happened that you have and that you know, the friends and the people you know and the situation. That are your blessings, and feeling gratitude. That, I think, gets you properly centered for happiness.
Speaker 2:Well, gratitude is so good for just keeping that list of gratitude. It gives you the right perspective, right? Right Is that?
Speaker 1:what you were saying. I think so, and that makes you happy, I think.
Speaker 2:It does. It does, yes, it does.
Speaker 3:Even the simple things it does. We're alive, we're alive, that's cool, right yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and then also too, like Craig and I talked about before you arrived at the studio, josh, we mentioned something. Like you know, when you like this girl at the beginning, it's like, wow, I do have some hope for this. Yeah, I feel so, and even Relationship hasn't blossomed. If I have hope, the byproduct of hope for me is happiness, because I still feel happy as long as there's that hope. Yeah, see what I mean. But I have to remember too, like hey, if it doesn't work out, guess what you know? On to the next one, on to the next one Don't let it. Don't allow it to eat my lunch.
Speaker 1:And if you could feel that way about life, to feel that giddy sort of nervous but hopeful and blissful anticipation of something wonderful is going to happen.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and you don't need it. Believe positive, positive thinking, the power of positive thinking.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and just that it doesn't need to be a lover. It's really wonderful when it is, but also if you could somehow hold that for all of life. It's amazing. People become blasé about, like you said, just being on the earth or being in a physical body. How unlikely is that that we're in this mysterious universe? How can you ever be? I understand how you can be unhappy, but really, when you're fully awake and immersed in it, it's like this is amazing. Oh it is. We have got to, you know, but again, how?
Speaker 2:do they get there? What term is that? It's perspective yes, you've got to have that, and if you don't have it, you can get it. Everything you need we got Everything we need. We really have it inside of us, oh amen. And if there's anything bad going on, we just need to know the kryptonite. Yes, know what rock to pick up. Did you still call me Superman?
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know what I mean we're going through something.
Speaker 2:There's a kryptonite to everything bad we're going through. It's just a matter of picking yourself up and finding what that is and finding out what you have to do.
Speaker 3:Yeah, if we're going through something bad in a relationship, or the beginning of it, or maybe during it, we're going to look at, allow the other things that they might be doing to really bother us. It might be like God. She's not communicating with me. Well, come to think about it, she's on her cell phone now all the time, just when the communication started going out the door. She's on her cell phone and when I talked to her about it, she's getting upset. Oh no, I'm just playing some video games right now, whereas before you were enthralled with each other, had each other's attention, the phone wasn't out, right, right, the phone wasn't out, you know.
Speaker 3:And then the smiling. We talked about that this, uh, I take a walk like every other day, sometimes at the by the water treatment plant. They have this really nice path and I see couples walking it and not too many couples smile while they're talking. In fact, I saw four couples today when I was walking and there was only one couple that was smiling with each other, and I don't smile while they're talking. In fact, I saw four couples today when I was walking and there was only one couple that was smiling with each other and I don't know if they were even a couple. They were two, a guy and a girl, college students. It was obvious. They were college age, but the rest were middle age. No, smile on their face. They were smiling, they weren't even talking. They weren't even talking. You know, it was really weird.
Speaker 2:Communication is the backbone of everything. Right it's going to be the backbone of the relationship. It always needs to come through.
Speaker 3:Right, just like their body language, like two strangers walking side by side.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, just like okay, well, happiness can also be. You don't have to be in a relationship all the time. No, it's okay to. Happiness can be found through just on one's own.
Speaker 3:No, you can. Oh, exactly, exactly, in fact really it might be easier.
Speaker 2:But it's so. It's so easy, though, to fall into that trap of when you're not getting along with somebody a girlfriend or whatever you fall into that trap of thinking it's just not going to work. It's just not going to work. It's just not going to work, but it is once you start talking to them and once they start talking to you, and then if a smile comes, and then if whatever comes, it's just about the communication. Yes, because there's something in us that wants to pull us away from the relationship for good.
Speaker 2:So nonjudgmental, and it doesn't have to be that way.
Speaker 3:Communication too.
Speaker 1:yeah, Communicate when all else, when you have doubts, ask a question about them ask a question get them to talk about themselves make sure you haven't left your own life and your own purpose behind too, because you might be doing the relationship too actively, you might be thinking about the relationship too much, when really if you just do your life and try to be excellent, then those things can relationship can fall into place more easily.
Speaker 3:It just goes better when you yeah, be yourself doing you yourself, yeah, and then she'll stay true to your goals she misses you and she's, you know, yeah she's, she's stepping up because you, she noticed, those are very good points.
Speaker 2:It's just be and do what you have to do for yourself, because all that's going to do is be attractive to that other person.
Speaker 3:Alpha.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, you're not going to go wrong with that, right yeah, you know, and then that's a beautiful thing, right, yeah? Yes, thank you very, very much for joining us and hope you picked up a few things on happiness Guys, you have anything else quick before we go. Happy, happy trails. Up to you, up to you, all right, all right, good night Leslie, good night y'all, take care.
Speaker 1:This concludes this episode of the Solution. Thanks for joining us and be sure to check out our next episode. Send your questions and comments to Craig2042 at gmailcom. That's Craig with a C. Until next time. Good luck and goodbye.
